Why most "boundary advice" fails: Understanding the neuroscience of toxic relationships
Tired of advice that ignores what's really happening in your body and brain when facing toxic people? This episode delivers a research-backed, four-step framework that fuses neuroscience and attachment theory to create boundaries that actually stick.
Most boundary-setting advice fails because it skips the critical first step - understanding your nervous system's response to threat. When you're triggered by a toxic person, your body goes into danger mode, making logical arguments useless. This framework starts with building your internal "home base" of safety before ever confronting anyone.
The breakthrough comes in step three when you learn to interpret what your body is telling you and respond from your adult self rather than your triggered inner child.
Ready for change? This episode includes exact scripts for peacekeepers, scapegoats, and anyone dealing with toxic people - but only after you've built the foundation that makes them effective.